Destress Now with Mindfulness

Destressing - Mindfulness - Meditation - MBSR

Welcome

Are you sometimes stressed out, worried or fatigued? Feeling upside-down, uptight, out of sync at home or at work? Is your mind chattering too much and time slipping away? Do you know how to truly relax? Are you looking for inner peace or flow in your life? Want to get (back) on course? Then it is time for YOU to discover mindfulness.

Discover a Way to a Happier You 
Solutions at hand. Whether you struggle to focus or get tangled up in too many things, time-stress can be tweaked or avoided with many potential benefits...When other people get stressed as cell phones keep ringing and errinds run amok, you can learn to stay on top - without becoming a vulnerable victim of the mental, emotional and physical stress symptoms. To move out of the downward psychological spiral, it is not enough to be told to RELAX. You need a proven, working tool that can help you de-stress, become more resilient, maximize your strengths and thrive in time. 

You may not have tried mindfulness before, what you are doing does not work, or has been lacking the right ingredients...By learning how to control the mind with mindfulness and meditation, you will also learn to manage time and stress more effectively and get happier too.

Discover the Power of Mindfulness (MBSR)
True, Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction effectively supports mental, emotional and physical health with 7 potential, magic benefits:

  • Reduces stress, anxiety and panic
  • Achieves relaxation & peace of mind
  • Opens up your life in new/joyful ways 
  • Promotes personal & spiritual growth
  • Helps cure insomnia, mood swings etc.
  • Helps the brain focus & body rejuvenate
  • Promotes social and other abilities

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Mindfulness and meditation can lower your stress levels (up to 40%), boost memory, sharpen attention skills and help with low mood and depression, increase feelings of happiness and compassion, strengthen our immune system and make us more resilient! How about that?

Mindfulness is also about being aware of whatever is happening in the present moment, without filters or judgment which can be brought to any situation. Put simply, it consists of cultivating awareness of the mind and body while living in the here and now.

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You can learn to manage time and stress with the e-course "Live in the Present" - a special, combined mindfulness training package that will help you alleviate the stress of our times (top right)!

Table of contents:
Chapter 1: Living in Presence 
Chapter 2: Understanding Time -Stress
Chapter 3: Becoming Present
Chapter 4: Releasing the Past
Chapter 5: The Future (Manifesting)
Chapter 6: Taking Action
Chapter 7: Time and Purpose
Chapter 8: Mindful Life (Meditations)

We have made it easy to learn and relevant to your daily life - by breaking down the basic mindfulness principles. You do not have to find a teacher where you live, spend endless hours and money on boring, expensive, complex classes. Study at your own pace at home and get into some of the above benefits (in 8 weeks). Here are some testimonials (excerpts):

" You have helped me free up more time. With love." - John E, Calgary 

"Mindfulness has been a gateway to living in new ways"  - T. Robinson, L.A.

"Special. Fun, enjoyable to read and efficient." - Paula J., London

"Information and power-packed. Seek it out. You will be surprised."
- Matt Harding, Australia

"The best I have read about stress and time - just in time". - J. Evert,  Detroit

"This thing has better-life- less stress qualities." - Thomas K, Berlin

"A spunky info pack with much practical wisdom." - Bill Johnson, Oakland

"Mindfully clearcutting, like a ninja". - Alexander W, NY

If they can apply it and get on course - so can you. 

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What makes you happier?

An interesting question when you really think about it...
Some people are happy eating candy all day, others like to work out till they drop. What makes one person happy, might kill another. What gives one person ticks can click with another. What we all have in common, however, are the many dangers to our health and well-being associated with continous stress.

Modern life offers very few tools to deal with stress. Most people think stress comes from the outside. We focus on external problems and fail to address or heal the roots of stress within - thinking we are under timely will or control, but it does not have to be that way. We can learn to de-stress and get happier at the same time with know-how...

Mindfulness is a method, beneficial to everyone, of every age, gender, or disposition. Brain research confirms that mindfulness meditation increases your overall wellbeing. It can change our perspective on life, and rewire our brain, which in turn can lead to greater happiness.

Time, Stress and Happiness
When we are stressed, we need to identify what is causing the stress and the tools or techniques to reduce the symptoms. How we use time varies of course, while happiness is related to our state of mind. You could also say that the ways we consume time come in packages with differing contents related to what we experience and how we feel inside. If we look at human psychological states, they are quite varied, ranging from sadness to joy during a given day, week or month, e.g. in the following order:

  • Bliss
  • Exaltation
  • Happines
  • Excitement
  • Joy
  • Gladness
  • Appreciation
  • Peace
  • Acceptance
  • Anxiety
  • Anger
  • Sadness
  • Sorrow
  • Depression

This is very human. We get sad temporarily or happy momentarily. In other words, our mood tends to fluctuate or descend, particularly when time-stress kicks in. To get happier, it is not enough to plan time ahead. You have probably tried this before failing miserably. You need to look at your state of mind, what you are doing with time and use mindfulness with awareness, insight, presence and understanding. If you are curious or need more info, get it via this site. You deserve more happiness.

Mindfulness FAQ

A: Who can learn mindfulness? 

Q: Anyone capable of seeing a letter box in the mind's eye and stay focused. Mindfulness takes practice, dedication, effort and time, however.

Q: How long does it take to learn mindfulness?

A: Depends on background and experience of the person in question. Mindfulness is a meditative practice and a way of life, so this varies. Most people can learn the basics within a month.

Q: Where would I get mindfulness course or training?

A. You can start here. It is not enough to hear or read about it.

Q: How many hours per week would I need to spend on Mindfulness?

A: There are no fixed rules, but from 10 to 20 minutes per day.

Q: Is mindfulness scientific?

A: Yes, it is well documented that mindfulness has significant effects on stress and some health disorders.Some training providers are evidence based, meaning it works if you learn to practice, properly, so you cannot say exactly how much.

Q: What are the benefits?

A: Less stress, anxiety and worry. More contentment and peace of mind. Greater clarity. Better mental health, sleep and memory. Often feelings of well-being, joy or happiness etc.

You can use mindfulness in many ways. Mindful living is comprehensive. It is about getting more out of life when you live it.

Mindful Q & A

Down with Stress
Q from Lisa E: I am on sick leave. Was working for an IT- company and suddenly could not focus or sleep at night. What then?  

A: Stress symptoms like yours are often caused by an overload. You need a time-out from work to find a way back to yourself . You cannot take your health for granted. Learn to engage in things that allow you to relax and take better care of yourself. Don't feel quilty. Respect yourself. Get into proper eating and sleeping habits. Excercise in moderation (walks). Learn mindfulness and meditate. 

Why Does Time Not Work? 
Q from John F: Time is slipping through my fingers. This has happened for some time now. How can I change this situation?

A: This is a common situation. You may either have too much on your plate or you are not managing time purposefully. Time is also changing as times change. When we have too much on our minds, there is a lot to process. To change your situation, look into what you are actually doing compared to what you want to do with time. If you are into stuff that stress, deviate or distract you all the time - try to bring your attention back to the present moment, Act there. 

What Should I Do Next? What Is the Right Path?
Q from Paul L: Have been wondering about a new direction. How can I figure out the right move or future? 

A: Sometimes we can see times ahead. Sometimes we have to use our gut feelings, meaning what feels right inside and what does not? The future is not set in stone, but in a state of flux. Something might happen, some things will not. You might be able to intuit it. Advice: Do not rush into things (for the moment). If the future feels uncertain or unclear, take your time and sort things out. It is ok to gain clarity and peace of mind before taking rightful action.

Living in Presence
Q from Gina, J: Why is the present important with mindfulness?

A: You cannot begin to understand it without learning to be in self-awareness. If the consciousness is wandering to many places or directions - this is what happens to you - through the lack of presence. Prsence NOW brings YOU back to where you are supposed to BE.

Students and Studies
Q from Anna I: I am a student. Can mindfulness help me?

A: Mindfulness based stress reduction (MBSR) can alleviate stress during peak study & examination periods, improve focus, memory and retention skills. Students tend to forget that they are "working" and also need time off to relax - similar to other people.

Inspiration
Q from Lucy J.: I am an uninspired artist. Is there a way to call upon Mindful Muses?

A: Any poet, painter or musician has this problem sometimes, want to transcend the normal bounds of talent or rise to unimagined levels or heights. In other words you may lack inspiration when it is most needed. There are different ways to get inspiration. You can go for a walk or explore it with meditation and mindfulness.....

Grief and Bereavement
Q from Ann: I am in grief and going through a bereavement. Can mindfulness help?

A: When we are in grief or bereavement we are processing a loss of some kind. Losing something in life is emotional. We need to acknowledge the fact - allow ourselves to accept and feel it. Our consciousness can heal any situation over a period of time. Mindfulness might help you deal with or support the process.  

Compassion
Q from Mary N.: Is mindfulness about compassion?

A: Mindfulness can help one develop kindness and compassion.

The Athlete
Q from Paul.: Is Mindfulness worth the time for an athlete?

A: Interesting question. For many years athletes did not use mental training, but we all know this has changed because of the fierce competition. You can certainly benefit from mindfulness meditations - combined with visualization or having a mental trainer.

The Mindful Manager 
Q from John A.: I am a business manager and have heard about Mindfulness. Would it be useful for me?

A: Managers tend to be sceptical or avoid mindfulness training because they think it’s time consuming, complex, new-agey or they will not be doing it right. Could be due to having a too linear mindset, or wanting to be in control (all the time). Stress-reduction with mindfulness is an advantage for any business manager. Explore, learn and use mindfulness 10-15 mins per day to relax.

Retired and Tired
Q from Marie H.: I am often tired. Could learning mindfulness give me a boost? 

A from MD: Yep! It is never too late. Better than drop dead.

Stress, Stress and More Stress
Q from Pete A: I am totally stressed, have tried various de-stress  techniques. None of them seemed to work. What then?

Answer: Here is a piece of scientific advice: When time pressure and work don't match for longer periods, cortisol (hormone) levels rise, which makes matters even worse. You sweat, cannot think, sleep or breathe properly and suddenly forget. Then it is time to pull the plug and start sorting things. 1) How much time do you have? 2) What is the work involved?  3) What is the pressure really about? "To do lists" help us prioritize ( things). This is very important. We cannot do it all, get overwhelmed. This is where Mindfulness works.

Change & No Change
Q from George M.: I have been in the process of change, but do not know exactly how, what or when? What about Mindfulness?

A: When people are sensing a kind of urgency hanging over their heads, it is important to figure out whether this is coming from you or someone else. Sometimes change is needed, sometimes not. If you are in a hurry trying to change everything under pressure, mind-map what must change. Why? What? How? Better to make small changes one step a time (with enough time) to be able to adapt, adjust and deal with it all. Be mindful with life-changes.

Mindfulness Practice
Q from Terry K.:  How long does it take to practice Mindfulness?

A: Depends. It is kind of up to you, really, but 10-15 minutes once or twice daily makes a huge difference for people. It is not a rigid system with strict rules, but you must practice with persistence.

Working Mum
Q from Irina K.: I am a working mum, torn between work and family (I love). It feels like one big quandary. How deal with it?

A: That is difficult. There is no "easy breezy" way. All working parents run into this dilemma. Maybe, what you will find with mindfulness practice is that you can do more in less time. Or it does not feel as stressful to get it done. Same thing really.

Mindfulness for Children
Q from Doris B.: Is Mindfulness good for Children?

A: Depends of course on age, but children -  who do not step on the olives - can learn to use mindfulness.  It is better when older.

Feeling Lonely
A: I cannot live without people and feel stressed when I am alone without someone around me. Can mindfulness "cure" loneliness?

A: It is always important to feel comfortable in your own skin. There is a distinct difference, however, between being alone and feeling lonely - and reasons why we do not always feel comfortable. Could be about emotional distress. Sometimes clearing a past is needed to heal  "aloofness" . Mindfulness can help you gain clarity, inner strength, or peace of mind. 

On Medication - What Do You Think?
Q: My stress has turned into a depression. I feel so down and the medication is only working somewhat.

A: It is always important to consult your doctor. Without knowing the duration or severity of your condition, psychological therapy might also be useful together with excercise and meditation. Mindfulness works on depressions (less relapse). When you feel better, you can commit to a permanent mindfulness regime. Best wishes.

Professionals Don't Take It Easy
Q from Eve J.: I am a professional -  like many always trying to "catch up". I cannot seem to figure this life out. Do you see a way?

A: Working life can be very demanding and time consuming particularly for professionals. Most people can handle "working all the time" for periods. Period. Continously, it cause problems. Incorporate mindfulness practice for relaxation, time management and so on. When you have too much going on in working life, it is important to remember to take good care of yourself - when you have time off. It is about that special "me time". Life is not a one way street.... There IS a space for you - if you make it so!

Marriage Cracks
Question from Ron A.: My wife and I are not getting on  well - we are considering a separation. Can you cast a light on how to alleviate the stress involved?

A: Relationship issues or problems can be hard nuts. You cannot address the stress involved  without considering both parties concerned. A relationship counsellor might be worth seeing if both agree. You could also arrange weekly meetings where you express openly (without criticism) how you feel"in-between" stuff before a potential split. Be mindful.

Children Are Getting on My Nerves
Q from Frank J: My children are getting on my nerves. They keep bumping up and down and I never seem to have time for anything. I feel stressed...

A: That is a hard one. Life can be full of joys and challenges with children. It depends on parents and age what you can do. You got this far and then suddenly the kids are smack in the middle of your life. Maybe, you want to consider having a "baby-sitter" in the weekends, or go on (holi)day breaks to get away. You can also learn mindfulness techniques if the going gets tough. B-r-e-a-t-h-e. 

Getting Sidetracked...
Q from Tom P.: I have been busy making so many plans, but I got sidetracked. I wonder, why this has happened? 

A: Obvioulsy, you do not  like it, but strive to adapt and adjust the circumstances. God might have a better plan for your life, and this might be why it has happened. Go with the flow and trust. The need to constantly plan or be in control may create a lot of friction, stress or pain if things do not pan out. Advice: Meditate to find inner peace. "Life is not what happens to us, but what we make of it."

What Meditations
Q from Glenn H.: I have learned to meditate, but it does not really seem to work or at least work very well for me. What would you say about that?

A: Depends what kind of meditation you have learned. There are quite a few ways to meditate (e.g. on mantras etc.) out there, but not all are suitable day in and day out or tailor made for everybody. It can be important to find a technique you feel comfortable with and then stick with it for some time. A meditational practice needs you in order to lever the benefits. Most people overlook this aspect of meditation. Meditation varies, but should not "mess with you".

Spiritual Practice(s)
Q from Ann R.: I have had different spiritual practices and been wondering about mindfulness. Can I combine or should I just try to use mindfulness?

A: A relevant question. It is always a good idea to consider different options or pathways. Spirituality means different things to people if you really look into the idea of what it means to be spiritual.

People enjoy different things, some ignore their body. Conversely, there are other people who only want to stay in their body and don’t necessarily want to open up to spirit. Perhaps a balance between the two is a good place.

There is no spiritual practice that absolutely works for everyone all the time. We are on a journey through life with different needs or preferences. It depends who and where we are, and so may change over time. Instead of hanging on to one practice, you could be more flexible (open-minded) and see what works. Mindfulness is good because it does not require a particular religious faith or practice, guru or anything like that. It is kinda "neutral"

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From A Mind Full of Stress to Mindfulness

 

WHY STRESS DOES NOT HAVE TO EAT YOUR LIFE

Copyright © 2016

You have heard it a million times: Somebody has a stress problem. Do you know why they caught the stress-flu or think to yourself, so what?

Mindless or Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction
When people succumb to stress it is not just the mind that is full of monkeys, the social network tends to re-act accordingly. When stress acts up, people ignore it, flee or turn away to avoid catching the same problem. Sad, but often true - when management tends to ignore the dangers of getting overworked.

Can You Remember What Day It Is
Maybe you are one of those people that tend to avoid or fight stress thinking it is not too bad or stressing does not mean losing one’s mind or senses. Maybe you just try to handle the work peaks or do not think too much about overtime. What if you forget or do not know how to take a breather?

Persistence and Resistance
Interestingly, there is a saying; that the more you try to resist something, the more it tends to persist. Stress also has a funny way of following the circular path; what goes around comes around. Acting out leads to more of the same.
 
We suddenly postpone doing the dishes and maybe laundry, or paying bills. One thing you don’t want to mess around with, however, is stress and your health. This is where ill will and lack of (social) support cause problems. 
 When we have a stress problem, there are warning signs we tend to ignore:

  • Insomnia
  • Memory loss
  • Fatigue
  • Depression
  • Overexertion (pay attention to that one)

Start Paying Attention to Yourself
Above is right; when you resist remembering how to pay tribute to yourself. 
 Have you ever noticed? There is that creeping little voice inside telling you when to stop, but the mental time manager takes over. Maybe it is work piles that overtake you. It is not a bad thing to get stressed from time to time (it spurs you on), but accelerating the pace worsens the stressed out condition. 
 
 The muscles in your chest suffer from cramps, your brain starts to wiggle and cognitive processes like planning contract like grapes and raisins. Life feels like you are on a spinning with your wrists tied to it. It just does NOT feel good to lose track while it gets harder to get things done, or you forget how. Then what?

Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking. — Marcus Aurelius

Work-Life Balance
When stress and unhappiness spread like a viral disease from the cubicle to shopping lists, and colleagues, friends or family that do not get ticked, STOP! 
 
Similar to a vehicle on mileage that breaks down in the middle of the road — all of a sudden — it is make or break time. There is a squeaky wheel noise or the engine is running out of fuel in the middle of traffic with yellow lights. 
There you go, you get the point or picture. Similar to on a race course we pace the horses till we are forced to stop and rethink. Mind control may also play a part when parents, society, and people all seem to know what is best or the best track for us. It is a kind of social engineering or conditioning trip.

If stress does not kill you — it makes you shape up.

Most people can wrap their minds around the idea of stress control, but it still does not solve the problem. Tomorrow is another busy day or week up ahead. There is a difference, however, between having the awareness and ignoring it.
 
In time you will have to or will figure this thing out. We are not meant to be busy creatures of habit, continuously. Office days where you just cannot squeeze another coffee down the throat or find 5 minutes for a break, something has to change. It is better to stop before your health makes that decision for you…right?

Me Time or Time Management?
 Some people use time management to impose structure and order in time.
 Other people resist the whole concept and work out or go for a gentle walk. 
 There are a million tips and tricks out there you can do for sure, but for some reason people rarely get around to actually doing them. Talk about creatures of habit. You know the 30 ways to reduce stress kind of ideas that end up in a dust or paper pile somewhere. 
 
 Like with many other things in life there is a difference between trying, trying things out and actually doing them. In other words lack of true incentive, will power, motivation or inspired action may in turn become serious culprits. Maybe you have already run through these ideas in your mind, but life moves on in the same groove, nevertheless. It is business or busy-ness as usual.

There is always a way out — of the stress. You can instantly and quickly do something to alleviate stress symptoms anytime, anywhere. Did you know?
 
 Do you want to know what it is? Start replacing mind-full with mindful.
Now you might wonder how to actually do that. What about the benefits or bottom line? It is simple, you can get started with a few tips and experience it right away. Check out below:

  1. Replace coffee with a cup of tea. It is an effective, scientific trick.
  2. Listen to your heart beating. Close your eyes and dive deep in.
  3. Go for a walk — notice the steps and dump the mind on the feet.
  4. Notice what is outside a window. Let the mind wander and eyes stick.
  5. Stretch your muscles gently often or sometimes with simple exercises.
  6. When lost in the office or City. Rise up, move, step or travel out.

    Maybe it is time. Here you can allow yourself to relax: www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=16&v=CSGxTXj3xyw